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Surrogacy First Meeting: Essential Dos and Don'ts

The first meeting between intended parents and surrogates is a critical milestone in the surrogacy journey. It is an opportunity to establish rapport, discuss expectations, and begin building a foundation for a successful partnership. As such, it is important to make a good impression and to conduct oneself in a professional manner.

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Here are essential dos and don'ts for intended parents and surrogates for the first meeting:


Be prepared.

This includes reviewing your surrogate or intended parents' profile, thinking about what you want to discuss, and preparing questions to ask.

Be punctual and professional.

Arrive on time for the meeting and dress appropriately.

Be open and honest.

This is a time to share your true selves with each other and to discuss your hopes and dreams for the surrogacy process.

Be respectful.

Treat your surrogate or intended parents with kindness, consideration, and understanding.

Ask questions.

This is a great opportunity to learn more about each other and to clarify any questions you may have about the surrogacy process.

Listen carefully.

It is important to pay attention to what your surrogate or intended parents have to say and to ask follow-up questions to ensure that you understand their needs and expectations.


Don't rush the meeting.

The first meeting should be a chance to get to know each other and to see if there is a good fit. Don't feel pressured to make a decision right away.

Don't discuss money.

This is not the time to discuss compensation or other financial arrangements. These topics should be saved for later, once you have had a chance to get to know each other better.

Don't make assumptions.

It is important to avoid making assumptions about your surrogate or intended parents based on their appearance, background, or any other factors. Instead, take the time to learn more about them and to get to know them as individuals.

Don't be negative.

The first meeting should be a positive and hopeful experience. Avoid discussing any potential challenges or risks associated with the surrogacy process.

Don't forget to follow up.

After the meeting, through your surrogacy agency, send a thank-you note to your surrogate or intended parents. This is a thoughtful gesture that shows that you appreciate their time and consideration.

By following these dos and don'ts, you can ensure that your first meeting with your potential surrogate or intended parents is a professional and productive experience. This will set a positive tone for the rest of the surrogacy journey and increase your chances of success.

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